It started as a dream to create a spiritual space for single believers in Minnesota and grew into a living testimony of God’s faithfulness. Our first Singles Spiritual Retreat took place last August and proved to be more than just a gathering.
Under the guidance of conference family life ministry coordinator Eduardo Jacobo, this initiative blossomed into a reality that left participants filled with joy. The retreat was prayerfully planned and led by Pastor Jude Senatus and a dedicated team of volunteers, including Becky Porter, Choolwe Luya, Robert Nguru, Chipo Monga, and many others. Mutinta Dewa and her team led out in creating vibrant, welcoming décor for the retreat.
Attendees traveled from across Minnesota and even Wisconsin, eager to fellowship and experience an atmosphere filled with warmth and belonging. For many singles in our churches, this retreat offered something long overdue: a space where they were not overlooked or pushed aside but embraced as valued members of the body of Christ.
Dr. Senatus opened the day with a reminder that “singleness is not isolation but instead preparation.” Pastor Darnisha Thomas delivered the keynote message, Positioning to Flourish on Purpose. Pastor Rachel Hyman presented Dodging Dogs and Divas: Spotting Wolves in Designer Clothing, while Pastor Ezra Kenyanya spoke on Choosing Solitude Without Shame.
Each talk resonated deeply. Participants said the messages were highly relevant and needed. The speakers’ words challenged hearts and brought healing and renewed purpose.
At its core, this retreat was more than an event—it was a movement. It boldly declared that singles in our churches are not forgotten. They are not defined by what they lack but by who they are in Christ. The Minnesota Conference, through this retreat, sent a powerful message: you are not invisible. God sees you, we see you, and you belong here.
Information provided by Jude Senatus
“The church can make a welcoming place for single adults by celebrating their wins and who they are as a person. Affirm them by saying, ‘You are enough.’ Avoid the unsolicited matchmaking questions: ‘Why are you single?’ or ‘When are you getting married?’ (it’s awkward). Be intentional with inclusive language and activities as a church family. Empathize with their struggles of singlehood and avoid saying ‘Enjoy your singleness.’ Lastly, view them as adults and not children. Encourage them to share their expertise based on their ministry passions, such as children’s and youth ministry, deacon/deaconess ministry, music, mental health or education.”
—Pastor Darnisha Thomas
